The Key to a Happy Marriage

Tease and denial are an important part of any marriage where male chastity is a major part of the lifestyle. In other words, it is where male chastity leads to a happy marriage — where the wife is kept in chastity, and the husband is kept in denial of any contact with his wife except for 24/7 orgasm denial…

Chastity basics To most folks, the concept of Tease and Denial does not immediately equate with orgasm denial. In fact, the two are quite separate — although one doesn’t suggest they are not related. However, most people (perverts mostly) don’t understand this: for most men, orgasm and actual denial are two different things (just as long as they’re not actually allowed to cum, which they almost never are). This means we can’t really answer the question women should allow their men to orgasm or not. We think it’s a good question — and one we should be able to answer freely, at least in this brief summary.

The reasons for this are of course, many and varied, but we’ll assume for now — in this case, we’re talking about the man’s fantasy (and in reality, if the man is feeling especially bold, he’ll probably masturbate himself to orgasm a little, as men are very like children in this respect). Assuming we can answer this question, we can also get some things straight: So, now we know what we want, let’s answer the question. Q: Can a man be denied his orgasm and yet still be allowed to orgasm with her every time? A: No. This is a common misrepresentation. What he won’t be able to do is actually allow himself to orgasm — that’s what he wants to do. The man can do this when he’s still locked (and you’re using a chastity device, so no pulls or speeds). He can allow himself to orgasm if he’s unclothed or at your mercy. It’s entirely up to you. Assuming you’re in a permanent relationship and not in a fling, this is going to be most useful to you. Because it means you can have all the orgasms you want, whenever you want them (or, at least, most of the time). Whips and chains, sexy lingerie, and many other devices designed to tease and deny him are not just for moments of high arousal. To many men’s minds — the idea of having a kinky sex life crosses the line into the realm of ‘porn-watching,’ and they feel like if they don’t have access to porn, they no longer have a ‘life’. This is one of the reasons so many men watch porn — so they can imagine some of the sex they dream about. Now, just to be clear: just because a man will occasionally watch porn as a way to give his arm a rest i.e. not respond to the tease and denial techniques that train him to last longer, it doesn’t make him wors accept either that he masturbates or that he regularly has sex with the woman he sees as his source for sexual release. However, just because he occasionally employs one of the many abstinence agreements that exist out there (or even if he unconditionally agrees to them), this is no reason for him to cease having sex with you or, indeed, to start viewing you as his sex object.

On the contrary, by keeping things as they are and waiting patiently for the right moment to bring things to a new level, all the abstinence you require is to give him time to say, “Not tonight, sweetheart,” without having the anger and resentment that so many men feel when their women don’t give them the sexual relief they expect. In short, if you like the way things are and nothing is changing, then preparing early for an orgasm is the one way to fast-forward the inevitable changes that lead to him being permanently committed to you. Many women prepare by limiting their sexual experiences to intercourse, so they know the impact of orgasm on their partners and can handle the loss of sexual pleasure, and physical intimacy, that accompanies abstinence. Others, who are only challenging their husbands on the issue of sex, consciously or unconsciously, limit their experiences to intercourse or do only that part of intercourse for a reason — such as baby-making. And yet others, who have had the life of their own sex life, are now too tired and stressed to have sex with their husbands.

So if you like the way things are and basically want intercourse to be a pleasant experience for both of you but aren’t at each other constantly, then, by all means, have it once every two weeks or however often you decide it’s comfortable between the two of you.